Welcome to Phynyx Ministries!

Hello Beautiful Survivor!

Welcome to Phynyx Ministries, a place where you can obtain lots of helpful information to help you break your silence and begin to heal from being sexually assaulted. If you are not a Sexual Assault Survivor, perhaps you know someone who is. Please feel free to share this website with that person. This website is also a place where Survivor's can share their story, a poem, or words of encouragement with a survivor or anyone who chooses to visit our site.

I praise God for allowing me to survive being sexually assaulted because I now know what my purpose in this life is - and that is to be an example to those survivors who may feel that they can't move forward with their lives in a positive way. There was a time in my life when I thought that I'd never leave the confines of my mother's bedroom which was where I retreated after the attack. But I continued to pray to God for strength, peace, and sanity. I sought professional treatment and had an awesome support system.

It's been 15 years since that cold November night, but today I am happily married, have two beautiful daughters, and living life to the fullest. The road to recovery is not easy, but I made it and you can as well. Don't get me wrong, I still have flashbacks from time to time, but I've learned not to let them consume me. I know who I am and what I'm worth...I'm worth more than my attacker thought I was and like the Phoenix, I will continue to rise.

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy

(...what the devil meant for evil, God meant for good...)

Genesis 50:20
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Friday, June 20, 2014

Are You Willing to be Cut?

Everybody wants to be a diamond, but nobody wants to be cut...

  
 
'They shall be Mine,’ says the LORD of hosts, ‘On the day that I make them My jewels.'
Malachi 3:17
What then shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
Romans 8:31 
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you may go. 
Joshua 1:9

 
Hello Beautiful!
 
Are you willing to be cut? 
The life of a diamond is complex from start to finish. 

A diamond is a mineral made of more than 99.5% pure carbon that is crystallized. The factors which have an influence on a diamond’s color and shape come from the remaining .05% of substance which makes up the diamond. Diamonds are extremely durable and strong, they are in fact the hardest known substance in the world. A diamond crystallizes roughly 100 miles below the earth’s surface. The crystallization occurs so low due to the temperatures and pressure required for the process to occur. The way diamonds were brought to the surface of the earth and hence found was due to volcanic eruptions occurring over 60 million years ago.  The first diamond mine ever discovered was in India before 600 BC. India was renowned for being the worlds largest supplier of diamonds. Many of the known famous diamonds were found in India. However today India only produces a very small percentage of the world's diamonds. Australia, Israel, America and South Africa are where most of the diamond production occurs today.

Diamonds are not found in the form which we find them set in beautiful rings, earrings and necklaces; they undergo many stages and cuts until they are presentable as gifts to those we love.

As Survivors, we are cut in many different ways but here are just a few:

Physical Cuts:  We can be physically cut when someone puts their hands on us in a harmful way or when someone physically abuses us.  In other words, when we are battered and bruised.

Mental Cuts:  We can be mentally cut when someone speaks negatively to us or about us in
in an effort to hurt us which oftentimes alters the way we think and process information.  It can also affect our decision making ability.

Spiritual Cuts:  We can be spiritually cut when our very spirits are harmed by something that someone has said or done that hits us so deep that it reaches our very spirits. 

Emotional Cuts:  This is very similar to being mentally abused.  Again, when your feelings or emotions are harmed by something that was said or done to you.  This could very well be a gateway to depression.

We know that cuts come in all different shapes, sizes and angles.  My cut may be vastly different from yours.  However, this is what makes us who we are.  Everything that we have survived which did not kill us is a cut to bring forth brilliance and clarity.  Romans 8:31 says, "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose."  This means that with every negative experience we encounter, God is working it out for our good.  Of course it doesn't feel good, but we find out later that there was actually some good in it.

Yes, this is difficult, I know you don't understand and I know you are asking why God why?  Know that every cut leads to a brilliant diamond--YOU!  The more trials, the more tribulations, the more tests--the more CUTS, the more exquisite and precious we become to be used by God to uplift HIS people to build HIS Kingdom. So I ask again my Sista, ARE YOU WILLING TO BE CUT?

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy
There is life after the silence. Let us help you break yours.
 
 







Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Phynyx Ministries Sexual Assault Healing Ministry Meeting...

 

Attention All Women Survivors of Sexual Violence!!!

 
 
 
 
Hello Beautiful!

This is just a gentle reminder to join us for the Phynyx Ministries S.A.H.M. meeting on Wednesday March 12th 6pm at the Empowerment Temple A.M.E. Church located in the heart of Baltimore City at 4217 Primrose Avenue, Baltimore MD 21215.

Our topic will be, "This Hurts: How do I deal with the pain, guilt and shame?" This will be a dynamic meeting filled with lots of nuggets of inspiration and motivation. So come out and hang out with your Sister Survivors as we journey together on our paths to healing and Glorify our Father!!!

Looking forward to seeing your smiling face in the place!

Love,
Sis. Angela

www.phynyxministries.org


 

Monday, September 2, 2013

Attention Women Survivors of Sexual Violence!!! It's That Time Again!!!

 
 

Phynyx Ministries at Empowerment Temple's

Sexual Assault Healing Ministry

New Session will begin Wednesday, September 18, 2013

6:00pm - 8:00pm
Empowerment Temple AME Church
4217 Primrose Avenue
Baltimore, MD 21215
 
 

 
 
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. -Genesis 50:20 NIV
 


Hello Beautiful!

I am super excited to share with you that we will begin our 4th, yes 4th session of the Phynyx Ministries at Empowerment Temple's Sexual Assault Healing Ministry - To God Be the Glory!!!  For those who are not familiar E.T. S.A.H.M., we are group of STRONG women survivors of sexual violence, who meet every other Wednesday at the Empowerment Temple A.M.E. Church where our Phenomenal Pastor is none other than Rev. Dr. Jamal Harrison-Bryant!!!  We also conduct the Phynyx Prayer Call at 8:00pm on the alternate Wednesday that we do not meet at the church.

Sexual Assault is defined as contact of a sexual nature, including but not limited to intercourse, perpetrated using force or the threat of force or when the victim is incapable of giving consent.

Ladies, it does not matter if you were molested as a child, raped last year or touched inappropriately yesterday, we support and welcome you with open arms to attend our meetings.  You are not required to share your experience, but most women are comfortable enough to do so.  As members share their stories, you will quickly realize that you are not alone and that quite a few of our stories are similar. 

Here is the structure of the Meeting:

  • Open with Prayer, Praise and Worship
  • Welcome and announcements
  • Mini-Bible Study
  • Group Session with Clinical Counselor
  • Wrap up
  • Closing Prayer
  • Dismissal
Strong women don't play victim...WE ARE SURVIVORS.  We don't make ourselves look pitiful and we don't point fingers.  We STAND and we DEAL.

Please share this information with every woman you know, she just might be a Survivor who is on the edge of a BREAKDOWN but you can help her receive her BREAKTHROUGH just by sharing this info.  Thank you in advance for spreading the word!

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy


A little musical INSPIRATION... Mary Mary - Survive



Thursday, July 4, 2013

Happy 4th of July 2013!!!

Happy Independence Day!!!



It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.
Galatians 5:1

But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life.
Romans 6:22

"The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because He anointed Me to preach the gospel to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim release to the captives, And recovery of sight to the blind, To set free those who are downtrodden, To proclaim the favorable year of the Lord."
Luke 4:18-19


Hello Lovelies!

This is the day when we Americans celebrate our country's independence, but today I am celebrating my freedom from those things that had been keeping me in bondage - those strongholds over my life like anger, depression, anxiety, loneliness, fear and low self-esteem.  As a result of being sexually assaulted, all of the aforementioned symptoms (as a result of being sexually violated) held me in such bondage that at times I didn't want to live.  BUT GOD!!! God healed me and showed me that there is life after the silence!  God gave me a will to live and helped me to believe that I am FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made, that I do MATTER and that I am ENOUGH...AND SO ARE YOU!!!

So on today, know that you can be free from any and everything that is holding you down or in bondage.  God freed me and can free you as well, if you let Him...will you?

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy


Check out this link to an inspirational thought for today by my girl Nicole Roberts Jones.  This message spoke to me so much that I had to share with you, my Lovelies!!!
Hope you enjoy it!  ~Phynyxx Skyy


Defining Moments -Thought for July 4, 2013

 

 



 
 
 

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Phynyx Ministries 1st Annual Fundraising Gala


Phynyx Ministries 1st Annual Fundraising Event:

The Red Tape Gala 



 

Hello Beautiful!
 
I am so excited about our  Red Tape Gala Fundraiser which is an event that publicly celebrates the work of Phynyx Ministries and its many supporters.  “Red Tape” represents the angry silence that many Survivors feel and harbor within that must be removed. At the Red Tape Gala, we will honor 5 women who have blazed a trail in the fight to end sexual violence with the "Blaze of Power" Award. We will remove our silence and speak up and out about not only the injustices experienced, but also the freedom from breaking the silence. 
 
Tickets will be available for purchase beginning March 9, 2013.  Reserve your tickets today by emailing indications of interest to me at phynyxministries@gmail.com.  We will be blasting information out regarding this event on all of our social media sites, which include Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and SocialCam, so please keep an eye out for it.  I am looking forward to seeing you there!
 
With love,
Phynyxx Skyy
 


 
 

Thursday, January 24, 2013

How Sexual Assault Affects Relationships/Marrianges


What is Sexual Assault and How it Affects

Relationships/Marriages

 

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.
Genesis 50:20


Hello Beautiful:

My good friends Kil and Dr. Roz have a blog by the name of Marriage-Exposed that deals with issues plaguing our relationships and marriages.  I have decided to share with you an article I wrote for the Marriage-Exposed in hopes that it will bless someone.  Read on...

What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault is any sexual activity involving a person who does not or cannot (due to alcohol, drugs, or some sort of incapacitation) agree or consent.  According to the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, “sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to take part in unwanted sexual contact or attention.”  Sexual assault is somewhat of an umbrella term, and can describe many things, including:

·         Rape, including partner and marital (yes, you can be raped by your spouse)

·         Unwanted sexual contact (touching or grabbing)

·         Unwelcome exposure of another person’s body, exhibitionism, or voyeurism

·         Child sex abuse

·         Incest or molestation

·         Sexual harassment

·         Sexual exploitation of clients by therapists, doctors, dentist, or other professionals (yes, this does happen too)

How does Sexual Assault affect our relationships/marriages?
Sexual Assault affects our relationships/marriages in many different ways.  If you are the Survivor, you may feel completely unsupported by your mate, who may not understand why it is “taking so long” for you to “get it together” and get back on track. Partners may have many issues of their own that prevent them from being supportive — such as deeply held beliefs that you may have attracted sexual attention from another, guilt over not having been there to protect you, and just a general sense of not understanding your pain and your healing journey. 

You shouldn’t feel guilty or foolish if you feel emotionally disconnected from your partner or unhappy in the bedroom. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love your partner or that you are no longer a sexual being. Consider it a period of healing and growth in which you need to take things slow. You should be aware of some of the common fears and concerns that can haunt many victims of sexual assault.  You may feel like:
·         You are damaged goods
·         You are not a real man (if you are a man who was raped)
·         You can never enjoy sex again
·         You are afraid to be attractive and look desirable
Ultimately, rebuilding a relationship after you have been raped might be one of the most difficult things you will ever do, but it can also transform your relationship in extraordinary ways if you and your partner acknowledge the challenges and work to together to heal yourselves, and the relationship. Your bond can become stronger than ever before, and your connection with your partner will be more intimate and powerful (I’m a witness!!!). Just make sure to keep the communication lines open and turn to a therapist or counselor for help if you can.
Until we meet again, be encouraged and know that your past does not define you.  You can pick up the pieces and move forward with your life.
Peace and blessings,
Phynyxx Skyy
Phynyxministries.org
 
References:
Dr. Laura Berman
Rainn.org        
Pandy’s.org

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Phynyx Ministries Salutes the Deltas...

Phynyx Ministries Salutes and Congratulates Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc., for 100 Years of Sisterhood and Service!!!

 

{First Row: Winona Cargile Alexander, Madree Penn Whiter, Wertie Blackwell Weaver, Vashti Turley Murphy, Ethel Cuff Black, Frederica Chase Dodd}

{Second Row:  Osceola Macarthy Adams, Pauline Oberdorfer Minor, Edna Brown Coleman, Edith Mott Young, Marguerite Young Alexander, Naomi Sewell Richardson, Eliza P. Shippen}

{Third Row:  Zephyr Chisom Carter, Myra Davis Hemmings, Maimie Reddy Rose, Bertha Pitts Campbell, Florence Letcher Toms, Olive Jones, Jessie McGuire Dent, Jimmie Bugg Middleton, Ethel Carr}
 
On January 13, 1913, Delta Sigma Theta Sorority was founded by 22 collegiate women on the campus of Howard University.  These students wanted to use their collective strength to promote academic excellence and to provide assistance to persons in need.  Without the courage and guidance of these 22 amazing women, organizations like Sisters4Sisters and Phynyx Ministries would not exist.  The first public act performed by the Delta Founder involved their participation in the Women's Suffrage March in Washington D.C., March 1913.  Delta Sigma Theta was incorporated in 1930.

The Founders of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority left a blueprint of Sisterhood and Success for generations of women.  Although I am not a Delta, I have plenty of loved ones who are strong, successful Delta women! 

So on this day of your Centennial, Women of Delta Sigma Theta, Incorporated...Phynyx Ministries, Inc. salutes and congratulates you! May God continue to bless you all with His favor and love!!!

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy
(Delta history by Carolyn Washington, Sisters4Sisters, Inc.)