Welcome to Phynyx Ministries!

Hello Beautiful Survivor!

Welcome to Phynyx Ministries, a place where you can obtain lots of helpful information to help you break your silence and begin to heal from being sexually assaulted. If you are not a Sexual Assault Survivor, perhaps you know someone who is. Please feel free to share this website with that person. This website is also a place where Survivor's can share their story, a poem, or words of encouragement with a survivor or anyone who chooses to visit our site.

I praise God for allowing me to survive being sexually assaulted because I now know what my purpose in this life is - and that is to be an example to those survivors who may feel that they can't move forward with their lives in a positive way. There was a time in my life when I thought that I'd never leave the confines of my mother's bedroom which was where I retreated after the attack. But I continued to pray to God for strength, peace, and sanity. I sought professional treatment and had an awesome support system.

It's been 15 years since that cold November night, but today I am happily married, have two beautiful daughters, and living life to the fullest. The road to recovery is not easy, but I made it and you can as well. Don't get me wrong, I still have flashbacks from time to time, but I've learned not to let them consume me. I know who I am and what I'm worth...I'm worth more than my attacker thought I was and like the Phoenix, I will continue to rise.

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy

(...what the devil meant for evil, God meant for good...)

Genesis 50:20

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Repost: From Being a Survivor to Becoming an Overcomer...

A little about my Mother-in-love the Rev. Dr. Joan L. Wharton...

Joan L. Wharton, D. Min., the pastor of Mt. Zion AME Church, Long Green, Maryland, Executive Director of One Church, One Child of Maryland, Inc., founder of Season Women Ministires and president of the Second Epsicopal District Women in Ministry of the AME Church is best known for her love and work on behalf of children and for her advocacy of women self actualization. Her leadership in developing nationwide faith-based programs that minister to the needs of teenage mothers and youth has been lauded by local and national organizations.

As a church development consultant, revivalist, retreat presenter, and teacher, Dr. Wharton is widely published. She is the author of several handbooks for developing youth and women ministries, including, A Handbook to Be Used for Effective Youth Ministry.   She has written articles for the National Council of Churches and some of her writings, meditations and prayers are included in their publications such as The Women of Color Study Bible, edited by Marjorie H. Lawson, Sister to Sister: Devotions For and From African American Women, edited by Suzan D. Johnson Cook, and Women in Ministry: Their Trials and Their Triumphs by Dr. Mankekolo Ngcobo.

In 2004 she published, Seasonal Women: A Collection of Meditations and Reflections for Women of All Seasons. In 2005 she published, TGIF-Thank God I’m Fasting: A 40 Day Journey of Prayers and Meditations  which is one of her most cherished works. Her latest publication, TGIF-Thank God I’m Fasting!  40-Day Daniel Fast Prayer Journal was launched last year.

Dr. Wharton is the proud mother of two sons, Darnyle and Simeon and two daughters, Danielle Cage Wharton and Angela Wharton. Her pride and joy are her granddaughters, Asia Nia Wharton, Laila Jean Wharton and Simone Joyce Wharton.

From Being a Survivor to Becoming an Overcomer

1 John 5:1-6
Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well. This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands. This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome,  for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world?  Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. This is the one who came by water and blood—Jesus Christ. He did not come by water only, but by water and blood. And it is the Spirit who testifies, because the Spirit is the truth.
Years ago Beyonce and Destiny’s Child sang a song entitled SURVIVOR… some of the lyrics go like this

I'm a survivor (What?)
I'm not gon give up (What?)
I'm not gon stop (What?)
I'm gon work harder (What?)
I'm a survivor (What?)
I'm gonna make it (What?)
I will survive (What?)
Keep on survivin' (What?)

And then Gloria Gaynor swept the world with her number one hit I Will Survive… some of the lyrics go like this
Oh, no not I, I will survive, Oh as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive; I've got all my life to live, I've got all my love to give ;And I, l will survive, I will survive....Hey, hey I will survive.
We in Baltimore some weeks ago survived and overcame an earthquake, tornado and multitude of flooding.
What does it mean to be a Survivor? In our world today we talk about all kinds of survivors: cancer survivors, abuse survivors, tornado survivors, earthquake survivors and the list goes on and on! It is great to be a survivor but I want to do more than just survive.
Well the Bible does not use the word “survivor” but it does use the word “overcomer.” The root word for overcome has a very interesting meaning in the original language (Greek) it means to prevail, to pass over, to gain the victory (20 times). I don’t want to settle for just surviving, I want to get the victory; I want to be an overcomer!
In order to grasp what it means to be a Spiritual Survivor we want to ask and answer a series of three questions.

Question Number One is WHAT MUST WE OVERCOME?
1 John 2:15-16. The Bible says, “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. (16) For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.” (NKJV)
Here the world is described as over-fold enemy. The Lust of the flesh; this speaks of passion, Lust of the eyes, this speaks of possession, the Pride of Life, this speaks of position. This is the uncontrolled ambition, the desire to put oneself first. The world still attacks us through these three areas of temptation.
Jesus taught his disciples to be confident and optimistic. Jesus said in John 16:33, “…In this world you will you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” We can be overcomers because Jesus was an overcomer. The Lord has provided a way for the believer to be victorious over every enemy he faces.

“Whoever believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves Him also loves him who is begotten of Him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and keep His commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome. For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?  This is He who came by water and blood—Jesus Christ; not only by water, but by water and blood. And it is the Spirit who bears witness, because the Spirit is truth.” 1 John 5:1-6 (NKJV)
This text reveals that we will face powerful opposition in this world. This opposition is necessary. Helen Keller, famous for the difficulties she overcame being born blind made the observation that, “The marvelous richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were not limitations to overcome. The hilltop hour would not be half so wonderful if there were no dark valleys to cross.” It is the difficulties in life that give us the opportunity to know what it is like to have victory. This text reveals three resources that are given to us to enable us to be overcomers.
Survivors first being an overcomer demands that we be born again. There is not one lost person alive today who can honestly say that they are living joyful, fulfilled and victorious lives. That person does not have the ingredient necessary for a victorious life. There is a void in their lives that can only be filled successfully with Christ.
Survivors, secondly it requires a Belief (vv. 4b-5). “And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith.  Who is he who overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” You do not become an overcomer by trying. You become an overcomer by trusting. It is by belief or faith that we are born again. When we by faith receive the Lord Jesus Christ as our Savior we are born again. Paul tells us in Ephesians 2:8-10, “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” (NKJV) If you want to be victorious, it is time to stop trying and start trusting. What are you trusting in today Survivors?
Finally survivors it requires the Blood. Verse six tells us that it requires the shed blood of Jesus that we can have the victory over sin and death. In our modern day we do not like to talk about the Blood but the Bible tells us, “without the shedding of blood there is no remission (of sin)” Hebrew 9:22. Sin demands a sacrifice. The payment for our sins requires an awesome price! The price for your sins was paid by Christ. We are told that redemption was made when Jesus once for all time entered into heaven with the offering of his blood (Heb 9:12) “…but with his own blood He entered the Most holy place once for all, having obtained eternal redemption.” Jesus once for all time paid the price for your eternal redemption. Therefore we are redeemed “…with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot.” (1 Peter 1:19 NKJV)
But these are not three separate things that we must do! They are all part of a single act. We are born again when we by faith accept the payment that Jesus made through his blood.
Our last Question which is number three is HOW CAN WE LIVE LIKE OVERCOMERS?
John tells us in Revelation 12:11, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.” (NKJV) We can overcome the obstacle, impediments, obstructions, barriers, blockages, problems, difficulties, hindrances, complications, hurdles and snags that we face in this life through the strength that we receive in the Lord. The believer is reminded in 1 John 4:4, “You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.
God has provided us with a living hope, an invaluable inheritance and a precious faith which produces in us an inexpressible joy. Why? Because we know that God loves us and we have nothing to fear because we have a certain hope for life eternal after this life. We can rejoice because God has saved us.
From being a survivor to an overcomer is this - if you have been born again, you have already been made an overcomer in Him. We have already been given the victory through the blood of Jesus Christ. Our challenge now is to live in the light of the victory that has already been won. That’s why the hymnologist reminds us that:
Victory is mine, victory is mine, victory today is mine. I told Satan to get thee behind, victory today is mine.

When I rose this morning, I didn't have no doubt; I knew that the Lord would bring me out. I fell on my knees, said, "Lord help me please" got up singing and shouting the victory.
 Happiness is mine, Peace is mine, Joy is mine, Love is mine, Gentleness is mine, Kindness is mine, Hope is mine, Faith is mine, Trust is mine, Confidence is mine, Assurance is mine, Praise is mine, Honor is mine, Worship is mine, Blessings is mine and victory today is mine. I told Satan to get thee behind, victory today is mine. You are more then a survivor – You are an overcomer.
God's Peace and Blessings to you,
Rev. Dr. Joan L. Wharton

Monday, October 24, 2011

A Devotional Thought on Disappointment...

O, Lord, you are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with song of deliverance.
Psalm 32:7

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Matthew 5:4

Blessed are those who hunger now, for you will be satisfied.  Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh.
Luke 6:21

Hello Beautiful!

We said we'd never grow up and we'd never grow old' we'd never trust anyone over thirty.  An now some of us have long since passed that tender age.
For this generation, more than any other in the twentieth century, the twenty-five year between your and middle-age have been marked by unmet expectations.  We found many of our dreams unreachable.  Growing up has been less about realizing our dreams and more about making our dreams subject to reality.  Now we plow through time, groping, learning, hurting, struggling, failing, and sometimes succeeding.
Perhaps, disappointed dreams are our best opportunities to transfer hope to its rightful place.  Heaven is where our biggest dreams belong.  Realizing that can help us make it through the here and now without placing a burden on the present that it was never meant to bear.  That's hope--realistic hope--which may yet serve to carry us through the rest of the journey.

With love,
P. Skyy and P. Rinehart

Friday, October 21, 2011

A Little Morning Inspiration...

"O LORD, when you favored me, you made my mountain stand firm; but when you hid your face, I was dismayed." (Psalm 30:7)

It is often difficult to recognize the hand of God when we are in the midst of adversity. We often feel God has hidden His face from us. When the Lord takes us through deep valleys, there will be fruit from the deep valley that we cannot see. You must press into Him with all you have during this time.

God uses the deep valley to frame our lives to create a change in our nature, not just a change in habits. The depth and width of our valley is often an indicator of the level of calling and influence we will have on others in the future. Our adversity is not just for us, but others who will be in our future path of influence. This is not very comforting when you are in the middle of the valley, but know this is a truth in the Kingdom.

It is often years later when we discover the wisdom of God and why He intentionally led us through the dark valley. Life is often lived forward, but understood backward. It is not until we are down the road and we stand on the mountain looking back through the valley that we can appreciate the terrain God has allowed us to scale and the spiritual deposits He has made in our life while we were there. "He reveals the deep things of darkness and brings deep shadows into the light" (Job 12:22). When you begin to realize this, you sit back and breathe a sigh of relief because you know that God was in control all along. It didn't seem like it at the time, but He was.

    Do you find yourself in the valley? Now is the time to fully trust Him to guide you to higher ground.

Seeing Backward
TGIF Today God Is First Volume 2, by Os Hillman
Today God Is First (TGIF) devotional message, Copyright by Os Hillman, Marketplace Leaders
With love,
Phynyxx Skyy

Thursday, October 13, 2011

A Little Afternoon Inspiration...

Hello Beautiful Butterfly Survivor!

Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper youor hold you up in any way.
Eileen Caddy

I am grateful for all my problems. After each one was overcome, I became stronger and more able to meet those that were still to come. I grew in all my difficulties.
J. C. Penney

Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.
Mary Tyler Moore

Keep smiling, be encouraged, and enjoy the rest of your day!!!

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Do it Anyway...

Hello Relentless Survivor!

I hope that your day is going well.  Please take a moment to read the poem below written by Mother Teresa which applies to so many different aspects of life.  So, whatever task you are up against and don't want to tackle for various reasons - DO IT ANYWAY!!!  In the long run, I'm sure you'll be glad you did. 

Mother Teresa wrote this poem – Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable,
illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind,
people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful,
you will win some false friends and true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank,
people may cheat you;
Be honest anyway.
What you spend years building,
someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today,
people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have,
and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis,
it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

Read more at Mother Teresa Poem : Do It Anyway

With love,
Phynyxx Skyyy

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Devotional Thought on Depression...

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.  A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all.
Psalm 34:18-19

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
Psalm 73:26

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.
Isaiah 43:2

Hello Cheerful Survivor!

Here I sit. A rainy weekday morning.  The dreariness is contagious.  I know the rain is good for farmers and plants.  But I'm not a farmer and unlike plants. The rain dampens my spirit, not my roots. 

How do we muster any enthusiasm on days like today?  Days of downcast spirits, a heavy heart, and responsibilities that feel overwhelming?  I wonder what bounty can be found in rainy days, dreary skies, and melancholy mood?

The answer softly comes to me--reassurance.  Reassurance that I'm not in this alone.  I'm staring in the right place.  I'm coming to a moment of quiet and seeking the presence of God.  Only He can bring order to my confusion, encouragement to my work-weary world, and enthusiasm to my dreary heart.

So God, this one's for you.  This day and all that lays before me I put in your hands.  The rain.  The fatigue.  The responsibilities.  The part of me that feels stretched beyond my limits.  This day I give to you, knowing your limits are infinite and your love is inexhaustible.

With love,
P. Skyy and D. Kingsporn

The Lord is refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.
Psalm 9:9

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

A Little Mid-Day Inspiration...

Dear Inspired Survivor!

I found the quotes below to be so very true.  Please take a moment to meditate on them to see how they relate to your life and experiences and be inspired!!!

Out of difficulties grow miracles-Jean de la Bruyere

You gain strength, experience, and confidence by every experience where you really stop to look fear in the face.  You must do the thing you think you cannot.   -Eleanor Roosevelt

Have a great rest of the day on purpose!!!

With Love,
Phynxx Skyy