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Hello Beautiful Survivor!

Welcome to Phynyx Ministries, a place where you can obtain lots of helpful information to help you break your silence and begin to heal from being sexually assaulted. If you are not a Sexual Assault Survivor, perhaps you know someone who is. Please feel free to share this website with that person. This website is also a place where Survivor's can share their story, a poem, or words of encouragement with a survivor or anyone who chooses to visit our site.

I praise God for allowing me to survive being sexually assaulted because I now know what my purpose in this life is - and that is to be an example to those survivors who may feel that they can't move forward with their lives in a positive way. There was a time in my life when I thought that I'd never leave the confines of my mother's bedroom which was where I retreated after the attack. But I continued to pray to God for strength, peace, and sanity. I sought professional treatment and had an awesome support system.

It's been 15 years since that cold November night, but today I am happily married, have two beautiful daughters, and living life to the fullest. The road to recovery is not easy, but I made it and you can as well. Don't get me wrong, I still have flashbacks from time to time, but I've learned not to let them consume me. I know who I am and what I'm worth...I'm worth more than my attacker thought I was and like the Phoenix, I will continue to rise.

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy

(...what the devil meant for evil, God meant for good...)

Genesis 50:20

Friday, June 20, 2014

Are You Willing to be Cut?

Everybody wants to be a diamond, but nobody wants to be cut...

'They shall be Mine,’ says the LORD of hosts, ‘On the day that I make them My jewels.'
Malachi 3:17
What then shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
Romans 8:31 
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you may go. 
Joshua 1:9

Hello Beautiful!
Are you willing to be cut? 
The life of a diamond is complex from start to finish. 

A diamond is a mineral made of more than 99.5% pure carbon that is crystallized. The factors which have an influence on a diamond’s color and shape come from the remaining .05% of substance which makes up the diamond. Diamonds are extremely durable and strong, they are in fact the hardest known substance in the world. A diamond crystallizes roughly 100 miles below the earth’s surface. The crystallization occurs so low due to the temperatures and pressure required for the process to occur. The way diamonds were brought to the surface of the earth and hence found was due to volcanic eruptions occurring over 60 million years ago.  The first diamond mine ever discovered was in India before 600 BC. India was renowned for being the worlds largest supplier of diamonds. Many of the known famous diamonds were found in India. However today India only produces a very small percentage of the world's diamonds. Australia, Israel, America and South Africa are where most of the diamond production occurs today.

Diamonds are not found in the form which we find them set in beautiful rings, earrings and necklaces; they undergo many stages and cuts until they are presentable as gifts to those we love.

As Survivors, we are cut in many different ways but here are just a few:

Physical Cuts:  We can be physically cut when someone puts their hands on us in a harmful way or when someone physically abuses us.  In other words, when we are battered and bruised.

Mental Cuts:  We can be mentally cut when someone speaks negatively to us or about us in
in an effort to hurt us which oftentimes alters the way we think and process information.  It can also affect our decision making ability.

Spiritual Cuts:  We can be spiritually cut when our very spirits are harmed by something that someone has said or done that hits us so deep that it reaches our very spirits. 

Emotional Cuts:  This is very similar to being mentally abused.  Again, when your feelings or emotions are harmed by something that was said or done to you.  This could very well be a gateway to depression.

We know that cuts come in all different shapes, sizes and angles.  My cut may be vastly different from yours.  However, this is what makes us who we are.  Everything that we have survived which did not kill us is a cut to bring forth brilliance and clarity.  Romans 8:31 says, "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose."  This means that with every negative experience we encounter, God is working it out for our good.  Of course it doesn't feel good, but we find out later that there was actually some good in it.

Yes, this is difficult, I know you don't understand and I know you are asking why God why?  Know that every cut leads to a brilliant diamond--YOU!  The more trials, the more tribulations, the more tests--the more CUTS, the more exquisite and precious we become to be used by God to uplift HIS people to build HIS Kingdom. So I ask again my Sista, ARE YOU WILLING TO BE CUT?

With love,
Phynyxx Skyy
There is life after the silence. Let us help you break yours.

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